It started to annoy me when he followed me into every room asking me when I was going to be done with whatever I was doing. He constantly and I mean CONSTANTLY had to have his hands on me rubbing me, kissing me trying to make out with me, groping me, complaining if I was one foot away from him. I would move out of his reach only to have him move closer to me and start the rub a dub dub session all over again completely negating any sort of subtle social hints I finally had it after a face bath session in front of my guests followed with bizarre stare downs and a potential let me get my tongue down your throat in any way possible in front of anyone who might want to see gesture that was so utterly inappropriate in this particular social situation that even a porn star/exhibitionist would have known better. Night after night, day after day I had NO privacy or even a minute to myself. This guy was even jealous of my dog and asked me to get rid of her. A kiss could never be nice. It was a jack rabbit routine to instantly have sex. It was totally gross. The I love you words absolutely POURed out of his mouth. You are so beautiful, ass kissing comments non-stop, what can I do for you, constant gifts and needing constant validation and compliments, constant bragging about how lucky I was to have him, he is so wealthy and this and that.

My friends just see him as a nice guy, which he is, but this was wayyyyyy beyond anything I had ever experienced before. He is a very handsome guy who now, because of his vile neediness is the least attractive guy I could ever encounter. I hope he snaps out of it because when I approached the subject, he just told me that someone else must have ruined it for me and I was just not romantic. I told him that he was the neediest, most clingy, co-dependent person I had ever met and that he suffocated me to new levels. He pushed me to such levels that I just had to tell him the truth.

Altough I need some advice, because my girlfriend lives in another city and she spends a lot of time with her ex-boyfriend. I tell you, I’m learning a lot about jealousy and confidence. But I’m smothering her yet.

I just can’t stop it. Sometimes I can’t eat before talking to her. One day I felt so anxious that I threw up many times. I’ll start to see a therapist next week, but I’m open to any advice to make me see that she’s not the center of my life.

Thank you very much.

It sucks because you’re always going to wander what she’s thinking and all that stuff, but really, you should just take some time off and focus on yourself. Especially if she says that you guys talk all the time, DEFINITELY give her space.

This will allow you both to focus on yourselves as well as start fresh. When you’re always talking and hanging out, there’s very little room for new things to come up like jokes, activities and such. You always want to keep her engaged and maybe a little time off is needed until you guys start clicking again.

Give her space but DON’T leave her alone or ignore her. That’s the biggest mistake you can probably make.