You aren’t cheating on a diet just because you want to eat a couple of burgers.

I subscribed.

But there are a few guys which I keep a close eye on (like her exes, good-looking and confident guys, etc… I watch the alpha males)

If she ever fools around with one of the guys in the “threat” category, that pisses me off, a lot. The good news is she doesn’t, or extremely rarely. She isn’t very physical and touchy like I am so she rarely, if ever touches any guys apart from me.

Still, I get pissed off even when she just talks to guys in the “threat” category, but it’s important to keep cool and give her twice as much space as she needs. Then she bitches about you not giving a fuck, which shows that she cares, and that’s always nice

So yeah, I consider a hang-out a date based on who she’s hanging out with. Works like a charm.

What do you mean “one-to-one” date? What do you consider a date, actually? I don’t mind when she hangs out with just one of her guy friends or something. But at what point does it become a date instead of a hang out?

But if my girlfriend cheats on me – if she ever kisses another guy, if she does cross that line (everyone has a different one), I have zero tolerance – I will dump her hard, and never look back. I do agree with you on this: cheating indicates low interest in you. She cheats, and it’s time to leave.

I think everyone has sexual impulsions. Everyone experiences physical attraction. You can repress it, but only to some extent, no matter how in love you are. I love my girlfriend madly, but I’m a very sexual/physical guy. I could have cheated on her with at least five different girls in the last three months, but I didn’t.

Love is choosing your partner over sexual impulsions, and not the absence of those impulsions. So it IS a question of commitment, tolerance, and insecurity. I’m fine with my girl sitting on another guy’s lap – that doesn’t mean she’s a whore or that she’s warming him up. As long as she doesn’t make out or go on a one-on-one date, I’m good.

You’re not old-fashioned, everyone has a different opinion, and no one has the right to judge that. The important thing is having values and sticking to them no matter how in love you are. Don’t change yourself to please or keep a girl.

I never said that touching constitutes cheating. If that was true, then probably 95% of couples would be guilty. However, I think there’s a fine line that you shouldn’t cross with touching.

I have plenty of chick friends of my own, and while I do touch them, it’s never the same way I would touch my girl. Hands touching is different than holding someone’s hand.

It has nothing to do with insecurity or being open minded or committed. Regardless of where you are in a relationship with a girl, are you okay seeing your girl sit on some other guy’s lap?

I’m a little bit old fashioned in some sense and my tolerance is relatively low. I shouldn’t have to deal with my girl acting like a whore with another guy regardless of how much she “loves” me. You can touch other people perfectly fine without it looking sketchy.

Dancing, though, is a messy territory though so I won’t even touch that one, haha.

I have a girlfriend whom I love, that doesn’t stop me from having other girls sit on my lap, hugging them intimately, holding their hands and so on.

I guess one factor you forgot to take into account is how open-minded you are in the relationship, how committed you are, and how much you’re into each other.

You break up in a relationship when the actions of one person impede on your values or beliefs. The definition of cheating depends on these.