Scarves are my favorite clothing accessory. Recently, they’ve become more and more popular among men who wear it not only to protect themselves from the cold, but to also compliment their outfit and look awesome while at it.

There are a few types of scarves. There are large chunky kinds, thin silky kinds, really long ones and everything in between. There are also many ways to wear one. Depending on what clothes you’re wearing as well as the kind of scarf you have, you might want to experiment wearing it differently.

Over the shoulder

This is the most common way to wear a scarf. Simply place it behind your neck and throw one end over the opposite shoulder.It’s easy and doesn’t take a lot of effort.

Works best with: All types of scarves

Through-the-loop

This is my choice of style when the weather starts getting colder. It keeps your neck nice and warm as well as looks somewhat like a tie. To make it, simply fold your scarf in half, then place it behind your neck after. Pull the “raw” side of the scarf through the loop and pull down to tighten it.

Works best with: Light to medium weight scarves

Knot

Pretty self explanatory. Just put the scarf around your neck and make a relatively tight knot in front of you. Take the outside piece and place it in front of the knot neatly so it covers it. Like the previous style, it’s great for keeping yourself warm.

Works best with: Medium weight to heavy

Hanging knot

This is just like the knot, except the knot is hung low (around chest chest height) and loose. This is a very fashionable style that looks awesome with a lot of outfits.

Works best with: Long or medium, lightweight types

Wrap around

This is just wrapping the scarf around your neck, with both ends of the scarf displayed in front of your body. I prefer to keep this nice and loose.

Works best with: Light to medium weight types

Wrap around w/ Loop

Same thing as the wrap around but you take it one step further. All you have to do is just add a knot to the front. It’s a very busy style but with the right colors and patterns, this can look very stylish. This is another one that I like to keep loose. Works best in the summer with a silk scarf but also works during colder seasons with relatively few layers.

Works best with: Long, lightweight types

I hope you guys have a better understanding of how to wear scarves more fashionably. Mess around and try different combinations of scarf styles and weights and you’ll be surprised how much better they can compliment what you wear.

How to wear a scarf

Scarves are my favorite clothing accessory. Recently, they’ve become more and more popular among men who wear it not to protect themselves from the cold, but also to compliment their outfit and look pretty awesome.

There are a few types of scarves. There are large chunky kinds, thin silky kinds, really long ones and everything in between. There are also many ways to wear a scarf. Depending on what you’re wearing as well as what kind of scarf you have, you might want to experiment with the different ways to wear a scarf.

Over the shoulder
this is the most common way to wear a scarf. Simply place it behind your neck and throw one end over the opposite shoulder.

works best with: all types

Through-the-loop
this is my choice of style when the weather starts getting colder. It keeps your neck nice and warm as well as looks somewhat like a tie. To make it, simply fold your scarf in half, then place it behind your neck after. Pull the “raw” side of the scarf through the loop and pull down to tighten it.

Works best with: light to medium type scarfs

Knot
Pretty self explanatory. Just put the scarf around you and make a relatively tight knot in front of you. Take the outside piece and place it in front of the knot neatly so it covers it. Like the previous style, it’s great for keeping yourself warm.

Works best with: medium to heavy types

Hanging knot
this is just like the knot, except the knot is less tight and it comes down to your chest. This is a very fashionable style that can be worn in many ways. Wear it with a blazer or even just a buttoned-down shirt.

Works best with: long, lightweight types

Wrap around
This style is pretty much just wrapping the scarf around your neck, with both ends of the scarf displayed in front of your body. I like to keep it kind of loose whenever I rock this style, especially if I’m wearing only a sweater or a shirt.

Works best with: light to medium types

Wrap around w/ Loop
Same basic principles as the wrap around, except you make a knot in the front after the initial wrap. I also like to keep this style nice and loose. I like to rock this during the summer mostly with just a t-shirt, but it also works during colder seasons with relatively few layers.

Works best with: lightweight types

I hope you guys have a better understanding of how to wear scarves more fashionably.  Mess around and try different combinations of scarf styles and weights and you’ll be surprised how much better they can compliment what you wear.

Which styles do you guys like?

Compromise is balance. Compromise is tending to each others needs. Many couples have problems because one either refuses to compromise with the other or give up too much and end up upset and unsatisfied. The key to a lasting relationship is balance and to achieve balance, c0mpromise must be made between couples.

What is compromise?

com⋅pro⋅mise [kom-pruh-mahyz], noun, verb:
a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agreement reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles, etc., by reciprocal modification of demands

In English, it means when two people stop being little shits and reach a middle ground for the overall benefit for both. It doesn’t have to be a literal object all the time, but can also pertain to pretty much everything such as certain habits, hobbies, or other lifestyle choices. A compromise is usually made when one party brings up an issue with another one and if deemed reasonable, they both agree to adjust things. Sometimes, a compromise can be a sacrifice. Other times, however, it can be something that should have been changed in the first place.

Why is it necessary?

Compromising is the difference between a healthy, stable relationship and one that ends relatively quickly. Relationships require effort and tender care from both involved and as such, requires that both parties are satisfied for things to go smoothly. Many pointless fights happen because of stupid things like conflicting TV show schedules or what to have for dinner that become seeds for bigger conflicts in the future.

Simply put, everybody wants to have a peaceful relationship that’s as conflict free as possible. In order for that to happen, both of you have to be relatively happy and satisfied.

Thinking objectively

Men tend to be very hubristic creatures. I admit it, I always think that I’m Mr. Right. And even though I’m right most of the time, there are times when I’m really wrong.

Compromise teaches you to look at things objectively. We don’t realize it, but we can be very biased about things. We don’t give things a chance, or have our minds firm about something simply because “I know I’m right.” How many times have you felt that way about something? How many times have you been wrong?

One time, my girl and I went to see a movie. There was a movie she wanted to see badly but I wouldn’t watch it unless you dragged my dead body to the showing. I already made up my mind about it sucking and had another one in mind. My psychic powers with zero scientific basis told me it was supposed to suck. Nevertheless, I grit my teeth and went in anyways in order to avoid her bitching all night.

Ironically, I really enjoyed it and was kind of glad that I saw this movie instead of the other one.

Learn to give things up

You need to give to get. It’s the law this universe has been run by since the dawn of time and it’s worked out well so far. If you expect anything from your girl, you need to be ready to make some sacrifices.

Sometimes, they can be tough to do. Maybe you have a lifestyle choice that absolutely must be changed. You may feel that it’s fine for you but isn’t suitable for the relationship. Things like curbing your smoking/drinking habits, becoming more neat & tidy and such can be extremely tough for those who are well used to that kind of lifestyle.

Other times, they aren’t even serious. Is cleaning the dishes some days really that much to ask? Is something so simple worth getting into a fight over?

Some of things, however, must be changed not for the relationship, but for you as a person. As I mentioned, if you have serious alcohol related problems, not only will it strain your relationship but it’ll take you down to a spiral of suck. She shouldn’t even have to ask you to change such life threatening things.

..But have some self-respect. Don’t give up everything.

A line has to be drawn somewhere. Just because you’re listening to some of her demands doesn’t mean you must bow down to all of them. Don’t be a pushover. If you feel strongly about something, talk it out with her. Just as you shouldn’t dictate her life and her choices, she has no right to do the same to you.

I know for sure there are some things I will never give up no matter what’s at stake. At times, things just become a core part of you and make up your overall personality.

Balance

Remember, compromise is a balance. The scale should never sway one way but sit comfortably in the middle. One sided relationships arise from a person giving up too much for another person which usually turn out horribly. You must tend to your partners needs but in turn she has to return it as well. Don’t think of it as something reserved for big decisions but something you must deal with on a minute basis.You don’t realize it but compromise is being met daily between you and your partner.

Arguments happen all the fucking time, and they’re inevitable. And a lot of times, they can escalate to ridiculous heights and whole fights break out. And while it’s okay to argue sometimes, what tends to happen is one would initiate personal attacks on the other and things spiral way out of control. This is especially true with couples and often damages their stability. Having complaints about the other is normal, but criticisms hurt and should be controlled if not outright forbidden.

What’s the difference?

Generally, a complaint is a statement of dissatisfaction. For example, your girl laughs in a way that really annoys you, and you let her know that it does. Simple as that.  A criticism, on the other hand, is a full on personal attack, usually done with ill intent. Unfortunately, we lose control and we tend to accidentally criticize our others when all we want to do just vent our frustrations to them, and that leads to a lot of trouble.

Compare these two:

“You know the smell of curry chicken is really strong and it makes my clothes smell funny. You should make sure there’s proper ventilation when you’re cooking.”

VS.

“You know how much I hate the smell of curry chicken. Why can’t you ever properly ventilate when you’re cooking? I hate repeating myself. Why do you always have to be so careless and forgetful?

They both have the same idea, but which of these do you think is more hurtful? In general, a complaint turns to criticism when you start insulting and attacking them personally.

Why is criticizing so bad?

Criticisms are awful because in no instance should you insult somebody unless they really and truly deserve it (which most of the time is unlikely). When it comes to relationships, you must be very careful about what you say to your partner. A lot of girls are easily discouraged and don’t have as much thick skin and thus aren’t so susceptible to even the smallest of criticisms.

Criticisms KILL their self-esteem. It crushes them into little pieces and make them feel worthless and inadequate. Why the fuck would you wanna make a girl cry? She isn’t with you to hear you bitch about how she sucks at life. You’re supposed to make her happy.

By always telling her that she can’t do anything right, she will really start to believe you. This will affect not only your relationship but her life in general, and I fucking GUARANTEE a break-up will be on the horizon.

The criticisms go both ways. Do you ever want your girl to tell you you’re worthless or you can’t do anything right? Do you want them to associate you with every bad thing that happens?

How can you get around it?

Is there a way to vent your frustrations and making your point without making her feel like shit? Absolutely. There’s nothing that can’t be solved without civil conversations. Sit her down, let her know what’s bugging you. Even if you’re fuming, control yourself. Men shouldn’t lose control over their emotions–that’s a sign of weakness.

Talk to her, and let her know what’s going on. She can’t fix whatever she’s doing wrong if she doesn’t know that it even bothers you. Insulting and berating her won’t speed up the process either. Usually, girls will realize and acknowledge the fault when you bring it up and they will work to fixing it on their own.

Remember, she wants to keep you happy as well.

Arguments are necessary

As annoying as they are, arguments are necessary to have a long and lasting relationship. If you aren’t having arguments in your relationship, chances are you both are bottling things in which is EXTREMELY unhealthy. Couples have a hard time saying what they really feel, which ends up on huge scale feuds and hurt feelings.

Arguments also allow you guys to figure out what’s bugging you both and how you can reach a compromise. That being said, if you’re arguing too often, then you guys need to sort yourselves out and ask if you two should really be together.

Whenever you’re annoyed with somebody, it’s okay to express your feelings. However, that can be done civilly. Complaints will happen, but don’t ever tread into criticism territory. It’s hurtful and 90% of the time completely unwarranted. Talk things out with her and you’re likely to have better results than when you’re beating her self-esteem senseless.

This is a guest post by Adrian of 36 Pounds

Gaining muscle is not about who has biggest biceps, lifts most weight, has the biggest chest or looks the best in the mirror. While you will definitely look and feel better as well as stronger, there is more to this!

1. More Self-Confidence

Gaining muscle and therefore looking better improves your self-confidence. Why? Because you’ll be happy with yourself when you can look at the mirror and see a great body. And when you’re happy with how you look, you feel better, can do bigger things and approach more girls. And, of course, having muscle does attract more women.

What’s more, you get stronger and feel safer in the streets. People look at you differently and you have a better chance of defending yourself if necessary.

2. More Respect

People respect you more when you aren’t a skinny-ass weakling with a body of a chick. Being very skinny or very fat makes you invisible to others. You might be the nice guy, the good friend, but never the sexy man (on a lot of cases however, there are skinny guys who manage to be great with women despite their physique or lack of).

3. More Mental Toughness

Your will and mental toughness improves dramatically if you push yourself and don’t wuss out. Let’s say you are squatting with some big weights. You’ve done 4 repetitions and it’s starts to get very tough and it looks like you can’t do one more repetition. There is that whiny voice in your head that starts saying: Don’t do it anymore, just rack it up!

However, you CAN do another repetition; you must do it! Push yourself to the limit! Do one more rep even if it burns a lot! And every time you do this, you are a little step closer to having am uch stronger will and mental toughness.

4. Teaches You to Set Goals

Men need to set goals. They need something to aim for! Without it we’re doomed. Like ships without steering, they’ll hit some rocks, sink and drown. Without goals, a man is weak and can NOT attract ladies (why? Because he has to live life bigger than oneself and have things more important than women!) And how do Gyms help?

Well, you have to set goals when training too. From setting your big goal (the weight you want to be at, the visual picture in your mind how you’d like to look), to setting small workout goals (to squat 200lbs for 5 sets and 5 repetitions for example).

And once you do reach your end goal, once you achieve that great looking, strong and healthy beach body you want, you’ll feel like you can achieve everything you want! It’s that powerful!

Hopefully, you guys enjoyed the post! I am a huge believer in improving your life through lifting weights and getting the body of your dreams. I’ve set out to prove it myself and to help other guys do it (my actual goal is to help 1000 skinny guys get Strong, Healthy, Great Looking Beach Body).

If you need help and advice on gaining muscle, visit Adrian’s blog at 36 Pounds!

“Learn from your mistakes!”

You’ve heard it all your life, but how many of you truly listened to that statement? How many times have you really fucked something up and actually learned from it? Rather, how many times have you done something wrong and blamed it on something else?  The difference between growing and staying stagnant is the ability to admit to your mistakes and learning from them.

Exercise personal responsibility.

It’s hard, really, to accept responsibility for anything. I know I’ve had a lot of trouble with this and still do to some degree. Thing is that, unless it was absolutely out of your control, you’ve played some part in what you screwed up on. This doesn’t mean you should put yourself on some endless guilt trip because that won’t solve anything. Instead, accept and admit that you did mess up.

I had a lot of trouble accepting a lot of things that I did wrong with my ex-girlfriend. I always pinned the blame on her for us breaking up but I never stopped to realize that I was fucking up as well. It’s easy to blame someone else but you get to the root of the problem once you objectively look at something.

Yes, she fucked up and made mistakes. A lot of them, in fact. And so did I. Had I stopped being stubborn and ate my pride a little, maybe we would still be together. Regardless, this was an extremely important and valuable life lesson that I needed to learn and it’s helped me grow.

Evaluate what you did wrong.

So now that you’ve admitted that you did something wrong, what exactly did you do wrong? This is when you should sit down and analyze. Playback the event and see what you could have done alternatively.

Many people would disagree about replaying bad events in your mind, and although I agree to a certain extent, I believe that replaying your mistakes helps you realize your wrongs. It’s painful, yes, but I believe that it’s necessary.

Once you’ve pinpointed the moment(s) where things went to hell, REMEMBER THEM. That purpose of you screwing up is so that you..

DON’T do it again

That is why we mess up. In fact, it’s okay to make mistakes, providing we learn from them. Growing up, we fuck up daily and we learn important things such as how to deal with girls and how to cope with making mistakes. The point, however, is to NOT do it again.

It’s very tempting to make the same mistakes over and over again. In fact, most things take us about a million times before we realize that we’re going in circles. I used to make the same mistakes with girls all the damn time as I was growing up, and it took me until I was in college to realize that I’m fucking up. I evaluated my mistakes and haven’t made (most of) them since. Can you guess how successful I’ve been after my realization?

DON’T beat yourself up

Earlier when I mentioned acceptance, I talked about really learning to admit that you screwed up. I do believe that we have control over a lot of things, but that doesn’t mean we realize it all the time. Remember, it’s totally okay to make mistakes. EVERYBODY makes mistakes. What you need to do is stop sulking about it. You can’t change the past and no matter how much you wish or pray, the past will be the past. Instead, focus on what you DO have control over and that’s THE FUTURE.

I used to beat myself up for every little fucking thing that went wrong. Break ups, financial problems, even when I failed my first road test. I soon began to realize that this does nothing but kill my self esteem and optimism and I opted to just deal with it. You shouldn’t be too apathetic about it but don’t let it bog you down either. Find a nice, happy medium. The mistakes that affect you somehow are usually the ones that get fixed first.

Remember, it’s ABSOLUTELY okay to make mistakes. However, in order to truly grow, you must evaluate your mistakes and LEARN FROM THEM. When you’re put into a similar situation and instead take an alternative action, you’ll know you’ve learned.

Dieting is hard. It’s a tough committment that many people can’t make. However, if you ever want to live healthy and have good physique, you might want to start changing your eating habits right now. Problem is that it’s easier said than done.

When I started changing my diet, it was tough man. Real tough. Especially living on an university campus, finding healthy food was difficult and often expensive (or so I thought). I ate nothing but chinese food, burgers, fries, pizza, pasta and all that shit daily.

The more I kept eating this way, the shittier I started to feel in general. I finally stepped up and got my diet in check.

Immediately change your portions.

This is something you can do right now. As in, this instance. You don’t need to eat until your stomach can’t hold anything more. Remember, the size of your stomach is about the size of your fist. Try not to expand it any further.

Eat until you’re satisfied, not until you’re full. If anything, drink more water so you feel full quicker. It’s gonna suck but within the first 3-4 days, you’ll adjust.

Make a slow transition.

Face it, unless you have the willpower of a buddhist monk, chances are you’ll utterly fail if you make an abrupt transition to eating healthy. That’s why you should start slow and take it one step at a time. I started eating lettuce in my burgers (how insignificant), then slowly started to eat broccoli.

Eventually I started to drink water exclusively instead of soda and juice, and from then on I ended up on a balanced diet of good stuff. You just have to eliminate and replace things little by little until it just becomes habit.

Get an enforcer.

Eating well in one meal is easy but you have to keep it up. The temptation to eat poorly is irresistible and we break our habits often. On campus, my roommate was my enforcer. He made sure that I wouldn’t slip since I had a tendency to do so.

There were so many times that I’d try to sneak in a donut or large fries and he’d snatch it away from me. I won’t lie, I got into a ton of confrontations with him whenever he just threw away my food infront of me. A month or so later, I was fairly glad he did.

When we can’t do something ourselves, it’s okay to ask somebody for help.

Imagine the results.

What would you look like 4 waist sizes down? What about with 6 packs or more? Imagining the results have been a great source of inspiration for me. What could be the benefits be if you started to eat healthy and getting fit? More energy? Girls noticing you more?

Think of all the possible benefits and concentrate on them. You’ll grit and bear it and force your way through your diet for a while until it becomes habitual. Plus, when you start to see results, they’ll inspire you to keep on going.

Any of you doing any diets? What kind of pitfalls did you guys encounter and how did you get through it?

There are a couple of things that I’m extremely thankful for in my life. I’m thankful for my family and the wonderful friends that I have. My friends have had a strong impression on me and my character. Like any good group of friends, we’ve taught each other many things and in turn have learned many important things as well.

Your problems aren’t as serious as you make them out to be.

It’s an awful habit that we make mountains out of mole hills, but sometimes we just can’t help it. We just get so hurt and affected by something that it seems like the world is about to end. Truth is, it’s nowhere near as serious as we blow it up to be.

Growing up I used to bitch and moan about the simplest of things but every time, my buddies would tell me to shut the fuck up and grow some chest hair. The shutting up part was easy. I remember how I’d come complaining to my friends about something that I thought was HOLY SHIT OMG serious and my friends wouldn’t really pay much attention to it, and often times criticized me for being a bitch.

I hated how they would just ignore my problems and thought that they just didn’t give a shit. However, over time I began to realize why they did and how overreacting was so unnecessary. Some days, things were really bad in my life and my friends responded appropriately. Most often, however, they made me realize that flipping out at every small obstacle in life is a pointless waste of energy.

You’re not the only person going through the same thing.

“Nobody understands me! They don’t know what the hell I’m going through!”

How many times have you felt that way? It sounds childish (and it is) and immature (this as well) but sometimes things spiral out of control that we truly feel that we’re unique in our misery. This is common amongst adolescents but a surprisingly amount of adults exhibit these emotions. We are human after all and we lose control here and there.

Its common knowledge amongst anybody that knows me personally that I’m at odds with my father. We’ve never had a good relationship and I doubt well ever reach rapport. I always thought nobody understood the kind of home I was growing up in and that made me feel detached from everybody. I felt that I couldn’t open up to people because they just wouldn’t get it.

I was wrong.

I’m surprised at the amount of people that are at odds with their dads, down to scenarios just like mine. I kind of felt silly afterward.

Talking frequency isn’t indicative of how close you are with someone.

Most people think that in order to maintain a strong friendship, you need to talk often and as frequently as possible. Real life proves that this isn’t the case at all. One of my close buddies is away serving the Air Force and we talk about once every 2-3 months. Whenever we do get a chance to catch up, it never feels like we even have to catch up.

There aren’t any awkward moments when we’re trying to figure out something to talk about. We pick up like we left off, as if we were just talking the other day. Sure we fill in each other with things here and there but for the most part, it’s like he never left.

Good friendships are forged from how much you allow someone else in and vice versa. Talking to somebody all the damned time makes you annoyed if anything. I’ve made extremely close friends within a relatively short period of time, and inversely, I’ve known people for over 5-6 years that I talk to on a decent basis that I don’t really feel attached to at all.

It’s about the content, not the volume.

Youre not as lonely as you think.

How many times have you felt that you had nobody to talk to? Or even the fact that no matter how many people you talked to that nobody ever cared about you? Growing up I always felt like that. I would talk to many faces and at the end of the day, I would still feel alone for no real reason. However, I failed to acknowledge back then that whenever I needed to talk to somebody, there would always be someone that picked up on the other side.

You are not alone. The only way you’ll ever be truly alone is if you isolate yourself in some mountain or just avoid talking to every single human being in this planet. If you choose the latter, you need to get some help–it’s a serious problem.We all feel lonely time to time but thinking that way is an insult to those that consider themselves a good friend to you.

They will bitch at you for waking them up at 3 in the morning to talk, but nevertheless they will be there for you and make you feel better. After all, you would do the same in return.

What have you learned?

I’m extremely picky when it comes to girls and I used to be what you would call a serial dater. There are certain qualities I expect from women and if she can’t impress me in the first few dates, I lose interest rather fast. You can find out a lot about a girl on just the first date. Sadly, there are plenty of guys that jump into a relationship without ever dating, and for the most part, those relationships fall apart rather quickly. Dating is extremely important and it shouldn’t be overlooked.

I had a friend who jumped into a relationship based only on the fact that the girl had a crush on him. That’s all it took. No quality time together, no dating, nothing. Over time, he began to realize that he had absolutely nothing in common with the girl at all and realized he got himself into a huge mess. He ended up breaking up with her. Had he bothered to try and gotten to know her better, he wouldn’t have wasted his time and instead, they could just have been friends. In this situation, they both lose.

Dating Rocks.

Dating around is awesome for various reasons. One, it allows you to meet tons of new people relatively quickly. A lot of the girls I’ve dated turned out to be interesting characters and even though I didn’t get with them, they make for excellent table talk. Two, there’s the huge benefit about zero commitment. You’re seeing multiple girls at once, possibly going far with a few of them without any commitment or fear of settling down. You’re progressing and you still got your options open. What’s there to lose?

Most importantly, however, dating so many girls allowed me to figure out what I want in a girl and most importantly what I don’t. Everybody thinks they have an idea of what their ideal girl is and what they want in them, but experience has taught me that:

• You rarely, if ever, know what you want.
• Your “dream girl” will constantly evolve.

More than one type.

I always thought that I had a “type” of girl that I’d fall in love with and so I kept on asking out those kinds of girls. But over time, I realized that my tastes constantly changed and there are so many things that I hated about my “type” of girl. The reality is that the girls you’ll really fall for overlaps a bunch of these “types”. Settling for one niche of girls is really just selling yourself short.

Dating made me realize that I hate certain attributes of girls that I previously thought I would love. Inversely, I started to like a lot of things about them that I would otherwise have not give a shit about.

Ultimately, it made me open minded and I was able to rid myself of my “type”.

Noticing trends.

You also start to notice many repeating trends amongst all girls. Every dating expert will tell you to treat girls, regardless of how good they look, as just that: girls. Every girl will think that they’re an unique snowflake with unique problems and unique thought processes, but really they’re the goddamned same. They’re just packaged differently.

Having this knowledge, you’ll have an easier time dealing with them. You won’t lose your composure and you’ll be less likely to do or say stupid things. The more girls you date, the more you become comfortable with them.

Bitter critics.

The main criticism I hear about dating is the same as for fashion—it costs money. If you want to be fancy, then sure it costs a lot, especially if you’re seeing a bunch of girls at once. However, I’ve been on dates that cost me no more than $10 bucks and some I didn’t pay for anything.

A date doesn’t have to be dinner and movie. It could be spending a night at the beach or a nice day out in the park. Come up with creative ideas for dates and not only will you save a ton of money, you’ll come off completely fresh and instantly have an edge.

Dating is essential.

Dating lets you keep your options open while you weed out the potentials from the duds. After all, it is a method of selection. You want the best possible deal and the only way you’ll find that is by testing waters. You’ll learn to love new things, hate other things, and ultimately become a lot more open-minded.

Good luck out there!

A friend of mine wrote an excellent post on how to be flirting master and he mentioned utilizing “obvious lies”, which really caught my eye. Girls love exaggerations—this is a fact. When done well and not ridiculously, your girl won’t stop having fun.

I exaggerate all the time–more than I should sometimes. Exaggerations are cool because it allows you to break out of reality for a little bit. They’re (usually) funny and girls LOVE to laugh hysterically. It also shows that you like to have fun and aren’t always stern and serious as a lot of guys these days. The best part is that they’re obviously lies and she understands that as well which opens up a ton of potential for back and forths.

Being random is NOT the same as exaggerating.

Many people think that in order for you to exaggerate your comments, you have to say random things. Like if you guys are talking about a TV show you two like, saying something like “Pies are Funtastic” will destroy everything between you two like the fist of an angry God. She’s going to wonder why you even said something like that. Random isn’t appropriate all the time. You don’t want to leave girls puzzled.

The kinds of comments to exaggerate.

Even though you can almost exaggerate anything, there are a few things that work extremely well. When you’re talking about the temperature, or anything that has to do with numbers, it’s usually a good time to throw it in there. Other things I’d recommend are:

• Emotions (“I’m so happy I’m about to barf rainbows!“)
• An opinion (“That sandwich was so good I ate 12 of them and the kitchen it was made in.“)
• Describing size (“That girl’s ass is a fucking continent.” Don’t say this to a girl, though.)

Be Careful though..

If you exaggerate too much, or too stupidly, she’s just gonna think that you have nothing else to offer. It’s something that should be moderated. You shouldn’t also make them inane either. You wan’t to exaggerate and make sense doing so (does that make sense?).

What’s so great about it? Why not just keep it normal?

Like I mentioned, it’s a nice break from a serious conversation, it elicits laughter and it’s also a way to flirt with the girls. They obviously know you didn’t eat a whole horse when you were hungry or actually vomit a rainbow, but the imagery as well as the absurdity of the statement will usually make them laugh, and most times will have her participating. You know what that’s called? Establishing rapport.

Girls like it when a guy is silly. But don’t be a clown. You don’t want her to go from thinking “Wow, he’s got a sense of humor!” to “Is he ever serious?”. Serious is good, but silly works wonders when you sprinkle it throughout your conversation.

Starting stuff is really easy. You sit around one day and you ponder and BAM! A great new idea comes into your head and you want to get started right then and there. Problem is, as easy as it is to start something, procrastination eventually kicks in and we never accomplish about 98% of the things we want to do.

Do you know how long I’ve been planning this blog? For about a year now. How long did the actual labor take for the site to go live? Probably no more than 6 hours.

So why the fuck did it take me this long for something that shouldn’t have taken more than a day to accomplish? I got lazy. Laziness and procrastination are probably two of the most sinister forces I’m still fighting against today, but never fear: you can win the battle.

Close doors

Probably the biggest offender, the reason it’s hard for us to finish what we start is because we just start too much stuff. We have a hundred ideas for novels, a million ideas for potential blogs and every other thing that we might be slightly interested in. We keep adding to our list when we haven’t even started them.

When you have so much stuff, you don’t have the hours or energy to put into all of them. You need to close down all these open doors and focus on the important things. You need to ask yourself…

“Do I really want it?”

Evaluate in your head the things that are the most important to you. Start weeding things out. You may thought something was great when you first thought of it, but think it over. Do you still feel the same about it? What are you the most passionate about amongst your list of shit to do? Rather, out of everything, which one do you see yourself actually finishing at a reasonable time?

Make a list of things you REALLY want do and another list of things you might want to. Which ones are most desirable? Which has more priority?

You don’t always have to leave all your goals behind—you can always shelve them. The point is that you need to create a small set of tasks that you will be completely focused on. Once you finish those, you can always come to finish the rest.

Create small goals

Small goals are an excellent way to keep up motivation. Segment your ultimate goal into a ton of tiny ones, each of which will help reach the finish line. This way, you get used to the idea of finishing something and are motivated to keep on going.

You want to write a novel? Make a goal of writing a page a day. Want to learn the guitar? Tell yourself that you’ll learn a certain amount of scales and chords a day. These small things will eventually build up onto larger short-term goals and before you know it, you finally made it.

Stick to it, no matter what!

It’s fun to daydream about finishing what we want and the kind of end results we’ll get. That’s great but remember: none of that will happen unless you keep it up. There are days that I’m not motivated to write posts or anything, but I do it anyway because it’s important to me.

The hard truth is that if you want ANYTHING in life, you need to work your ass off for it. You need to work hard and make sacrifices. It’s been said a thousand times but it’s the truth. Stick to your plan to matter what. Force yourself if you have to.

Focus, focus, FOCUS!!!

Don’t get distracted. Don’t lose focus. If you do and you start to wane, read this post again. I will beat some sense into your brain until you are indeed energized enough to get back to your goals. Honestly, think about it: If you can’t even accomplish small goals, then how can you accomplish anything in life? How will you get anywhere?

Fear is an excellent motivator.

I was in this rut as well.

My friends used to refer to me as “The Guy That Started Shit”. I always made plans, but I never followed through with anything, let alone finish them–I was notorious for this shit. But I got off my ass and started to work and soon enough, things have started to fall into place.

Nothing feels greater than the feeling of accomplishment. Just stick to it and don’t give up, and you will also be able to taste this sweetness.