Jun 24, 2009
Say “Hi!”, Anywhere and Everywhere
Generally, girls like to be acknowledged. They like it a lot when you approach them to talk to them. There are the obvious warning signs as to when you should avoid them or not even bother, but regardless, they want to be talked to. Maybe you aspire to just lose inhibition or be a player. All those abilities will come in time, however, the first step in whatever you want to do—whether you want to become more social or improve your game and collect numbers— you need to start talking to girls, anywhere and everywhere.
It’s Simple
It’s just as simple as saying “Hi” to them. There is no need to start up a conversation, no pick up lines, no planned encounters. You see a girl, you just say “Hi” to them. That’s it. You’ll be surprised how much this works. For one, it really helps you lose that inhibition. You can ponder for hours thinking about the perfect plan and opener but in reality, just being yourself works better than anything.
When you just say “Hi” to a girl without any event leading up to it, they will be taken back. Being the prideful bitches they are they will think that you must have some large fucking balls to even do something like that. You’ll be on her mind for a while, if not all day. Mission Accomplished.
Don’t be reckless
Despite all that, there are some things you should follow. For one, only do something if they’re looking at your direction. You don’t want to come from behind and spook her out, and possibly get yelled at scratched. Also, if they’re on their iPod or just preoccupied, it’s also advisable to just stay the fuck away. Remember, the point is you overcoming your uneasiness.
If your initial approach leads to a conversation, that’s even better, but that isn’t your primary goal. I suggest you should only do the hello thing as you’re passing her or in a situation where you won’t have to be next to her for too long. Trust me, saying “Hi” to somebody and then just sticking around them in silence makes things extremely awkward and she’ll think you’re a creeper or weirdo.
Good times to say “Hi”
- You’re passing a girl in the mall and she looks your way as she’s walking closer
- You’re jogging and she happens to run towards your direction
- You’re shopping and a girl is nearby
Terrible times to say “Hi”
- She’s busy with something
- She’s with a friend or a group of people
- She’s not looking towards your general direction
As you keep it up, you’ll realize how easy it is to approach girls in general. Build up your confidence, and learn how to keep up the conversation, you’ll realize how easy it is to strike up a lengthy conversation. Before you know it, you’ll wonder why the fuck you were having problems in the first place.
Go out there and do some field work, soldiers!
Sometimes, it takes guts to just go out to a girl and say “Hi!”. Believe it or not, confidence is an extremely desirable trait – and having the cojones to go up to girl and spark a conversation demonstrates confidence.
it’s time for men to be men – to face the fear of rejection and take action. Thanks for reminding us
The problem with most men is that they NEVER get the cojones. They’re so damned timid and they think more than they act.
Confidence is THE most desirable trait. Looks, money, physique are nice to have, but without being confident in yourself, everything else is just useless.
Haven’t really tried saying HI! to girls at the malls here and I don’t know if this is applicable to Filipinas, but let’s have a try, not that I’ll be the one trying, it’ll be something that I suggest to my friends to do :p
Hey man, Filipinas are still girls, are they not?
You should give it a shot. Your experience will always be different from your friends, and the only way you can gauge the success of the method is by doing it yourself!
I tried it, it feels good and a bit embarrassing, haha, the scenario was at the entrance to the cinema and no, I don’t know how stupid I looked at that time, well at least I am pretty sure that the ones I said “HI!” where a) not preoccupied b) not accompanied by friends c) looking in my direction
The whole story goes beyond a little comment and I might come to write about it later on this evening if time allots and I’d be delighted to share a link here to my friends within the post, cheers!
Of course the first few times it WILL be troubling and you’ll probably fail a lot. But the point is to do it enough so you overcome the uneasiness and build up natural confidence.
Failing sucks hard but you need to experience it so you get accustomed to it. Trust me, after a while, it’ll be nothing but scoring!