Jul 6, 2009
Waaaaaahhhh! I’m not the most important thing in her life! Pay attention to me!
One of the most infuriating things is when you call or message somebody and they either don’t respond, or that they take forever in doing so. It’s tolerable with your friends or anybody else that you call, but something in our brains press the giant red “PISSED OFF” button whenever it’s a girl that you’re interested in that does that. We start bitching and moaning and just act like little babies and jump to many conclusions. What you need to realize is that, there’s a very small chance that she’s actually doing it to piss you off or even intentionally.
She has a life
Yes, it might come as a shock to you, but your girl/prospect/object of affection has things to do in her life. Even more surprising is that she also has (gasp!) other people to talk with! Generally, she’s either hanging out with friends, on the phone already or just busy living life. Get it into your brain that her life doesn’t revolve around you and she’s allowed to miss a call or two. Usually, she’s totally unaware that this really bothers you.
Her side of the story
She will most likely call back. And if not, she probably had something to do. Maybe she was being considerate and thought you were sleeping or at work or something. Girls are quite timid and unless she’s absolutely obsessed with you (which is when you should bail), they’ll only call you when they think you may have a free time. Ever had a phone call from a girl and you told her you were busy? They get really apologetic to a point where they feel like they committed a crime. They like to avoid feeling like they’re intruding.
Don’t let it get to you
You shouldn’t hold a grudge against her for that. After all, if you were in her position and you had shit to do, a phone call wouldn’t be quite high in your list of priorities. That also means that you should at one point call her back. Not that same day, but perhaps the day after. You’re not being macho by not calling her back until she does. Instead, that just shows how much of a little bitchass you are by letting a small incident affect you. Man up and call her back later if she doesn’t get to. You don’t want your pride to potentially ruin something that might be fruitful. In the mean time, don’t sit around all day for that phone call. Do something productive.
There’s a small chance when she’s actually ignoring your calls on purpose. Sometimes she’s not that into you at all (but you should’ve figured this out already) Girls are also fucking idiots sometimes and they often get stupid ideas from their harem of friends. A couple of girls I’ve had the (dis)pleasure of knowing had a habit of testing guys by not picking up, or purposely played distant and hard-to-get to see how quickly and how many times the guy will call them back. A test of devotion.
And how would you know if you’re just being a guinea pig? Easy, she’ll tell you. After they’re done having their fun, they’ll just admit it outright that they were just messing with you and they wanted a laugh here and there. They think it’s fun and they expect you to go “Oh, hahaha you sure got me!” If your girl falls into that small minority, its best you tell her to eat a dick and promptly make your exit from her life.