Tending to each others needs will ensure zero problems getting along.
Compromise is balance. Compromise is tending to each others needs. Many couples have problems because one either refuses to compromise with the other or give up too much and end up upset and unsatisfied. The key to a lasting relationship is balance and to achieve balance, c0mpromise must be made between couples.
What is compromise?
com⋅pro⋅mise [kom-pruh-mahyz], noun, verb:
a settlement of differences by mutual concessions; an agreement reached by adjustment of conflicting or opposing claims, principles, etc., by reciprocal modification of demands
In English, it means when two people stop being little shits and reach a middle ground for the overall benefit for both. It doesn’t have to be a literal object all the time, but can also pertain to pretty much everything such as certain habits, hobbies, or other lifestyle choices. A compromise is usually made when one party brings up an issue with another one and if deemed reasonable, they both agree to adjust things. Sometimes, a compromise can be a sacrifice. Other times, however, it can be something that should have been changed in the first place.
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This is you from her point of view.
Arguments happen all the fucking time, and they’re inevitable. And a lot of times, they can escalate to ridiculous heights and whole fights break out. And while it’s okay to argue sometimes, what tends to happen is one would initiate personal attacks on the other and things spiral way out of control. This is especially true with couples and often damages their stability. Having complaints about the other is normal, but criticisms hurt and should be controlled if not outright forbidden.
What’s the difference?
Generally, a complaint is a statement of dissatisfaction. For example, your girl laughs in a way that really annoys you, and you let her know that it does. Simple as that. A criticism, on the other hand, is a full on personal attack, usually done with ill intent. Unfortunately, we lose control and we tend to accidentally criticize our others when all we want to do just vent our frustrations to them, and that leads to a lot of trouble.
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Be fresh–a date doesn’t have to be dinner and a movie. This guy knows that which is why he’s getting some.
I’m extremely picky when it comes to girls and I used to be what you would call a serial dater. There are certain qualities I expect from women and if she can’t impress me in the first few dates, I lose interest rather fast. You can find out a lot about a girl on just the first date. Sadly, there are plenty of guys that jump into a relationship without ever dating, and for the most part, those relationships fall apart rather quickly. Dating is extremely important and it shouldn’t be overlooked.
I had a friend who jumped into a relationship based only on the fact that the girl had a crush on him. That’s all it took. No quality time together, no dating, nothing. Over time, he began to realize that he had absolutely nothing in common with the girl at all and realized he got himself into a huge mess. He ended up breaking up with her. Had he bothered to try and gotten to know her better, he wouldn’t have wasted his time and instead, they could just have been friends. In this situation, they both lose.
This is an accurate representation of how she feels.
You’re in a relationship. You guys love each other, talk often, and everything just seems to go perfect. One day, out of the blue, she tells you four words you never expected to hear: “I need some space.” You’re like, “…What?” You wonder what the hell is going on. Why did all of this happen out of nowhere? What possible mistake could you have made? Guess what buddy? You were smothering her and you didn’t even know it.
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Shit hurts like a bitch.
This is one thing we all fear the most. Nothing hurts our hearts (and our pride) when girls cheat on us. It’s fucked up, and it’s totally unnecessary. We aren’t always in the receiving end though as guys cheat as well. Regardless of who does it, it’s still a really fucked up thing to do. We might not agree on whether or not it’s okay to cheat, but one thing that we can agree on is that it’s meaning is different for everyone. What exactly is cheating?
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